Getting read is absolutely delightful and I’m so glad you’re curious about it! Readings are not a scary thing and should create positive feelings.
I hate having to share red flags to watch out for, but unfortunately there are folks out there looking to make a quick buck. Here are some things that should absolutely NOT happen in any sort of reading:
- Needing to fill out an extensive pre-reading questionnaire or really giving any information ahead of time
- The reader telling you that you have a demon or negative attachment to you and that it will be more money to clear the energy
- Psychics reaching out to you saying “you have good energy” or “I was drawn to you” or making first contact
- Being too positive or too negative or too general
Whew, not that those are out of the way, here are somethings you should expect. Regardless of the type of reading you get, whether it be divinations such as tarot or oracle cards, dowsing or pendulum readings, throwing bones, astrology, I-Ching, palm reading, or readings without physical tools such as using any of the Clair senses, the reader should be able to provide you some specifics that resonate with you. They should be able to provide this information without needing to gather any sort of detailed information ahead of time. Often times, readers will ask for a name (or birthday with astrology), but they really shouldn’t need much more than that. Some readers have specific methods to connect with spirits and your spirit team, but that should not involve an internet search of you ahead of time.
As you move through the reading, you should be receiving information that is balanced in its nature. We are all human, so we all have things to work on or growth opportunities and readers should not avoid delivering uncomfortable information, especially if spirit wants them to share. On the other hand, there should be good positive feedback coming through as well. You should be receiving information that is validating to you and that is somewhat specific. I say “somewhat” because there are different levels of specificity. For example, I’m not going to know that you have a stick of gum in your nightstand that’s been there for 6 years and you forgot about it. (Spiritual sign anyone?). Unless that stick of gum has some meaning and emotion attached to it – like it belonged to a passed loved one and they gave it to you as a joke, the gum really has no relevance to anything you need to know.
Some examples of information I have gotten in recent readings is that someone’s dad was in spirit and he was bald. I often get the number of children someone has or the kinds/number of pets they have. Spirit will often give me signs of the kinds of questions a person will have ahead of time – a recent example is that spirit was updating me on skinwalkers the night before I had a reading with questions about them. I had not thought of them in several months, so it was an odd thing to bring up. I can often tell if someone meditates frequently or if they have chronic pain somewhere. Sometimes spirit will send me hand gestures you did with past loved ones. While some of these things would be obvious for someone that’s close to you or knows you, as a complete stranger, I have no reason to know any of these things and I try not to assume some of the information about someone.
Sometimes the information or energy that comes forward is that you have some sort of energy bothering you. Sometimes it’s stuck and needs some help moving. This sort of energy should never create fear. There are no demons that will come and suck out your soul or take over your body without your permission. There are some energies that try to raise their own vibration by sticking to you (law of attraction working for them!), but they aren’t out for you specifically. There are some readers that will say “I need another $100 to clear out this attachment”. First of all, no. If you paid for an amount of time and they are capable of moving that energy, there should be no up charge in that same space. There should also never be fear created to get you to book another appointment. You don’t need a specific amount of sessions to stay clear and you can protect your own energy (Here’s some ideas on how to do so here). You are also capable of clearing stuck energy on your own. One really easy way is to literally move – run, dance, sing, just move your body in a joyful way wherever that negativity is and it will drive it out. You can also watch a funny movie or baby animal videos. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
The last thing is, you should be drawn of your own accord to get a reading with someone in particular. Part of being the first person to make contact is that you should be aligned with the reader and the other factor is that you need to be in the right headspace to get a reading. Without those two things, whatever messages come from spirit may be misaligned or jumbled or just not resonating the right way. That is such a bummer, because the information might be good and valid, but you won’t be able to receive it.
Some messages will make sense, some might not. Sometimes the information is a “look out, this is coming later”, sometimes the information is “here’s some proof to help quell the doubt”, and sometimes the information is “you’re doing great” or “here’s permission”. Each reading you get will always be filtered through the lens of the reader, so some readers might get the right information but communicate it in a way that doesn’t make sense to you. That’s why you should always take what makes sense to you from a reading and leave the rest, but be open to it making sense later.
Personally, the readings I’ve had done (and there’s been a lot) are always profound, sometimes unexpectedly. Readings can cause some fatigue, partially because they can be the launching point for growth and partially because they are often releasing emotions and energy just by acknowledging the situation. Be prepared to get some extra sleep the day or two after, especially if it is your first reading. I promise it’s worth it.
Have you had a reading before? What was your experience like?
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